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For all of us who have been wounded by another and struggled to understand and move beyond our feelings of hurt and anger, Lewis Smedes's classic book on forgiveness shows that it is possible to heal our pain and find room in our hearts to forgive. Breaking down the process of healing into four stages and offering stories of real people's experience throughout, this wise book provides hope and solace for all who long for the peace that comes with forgiveness.

"Lewis B. Smedes ... sets us free to understand thatforgiveness can be not only a possibility but a reality." -- -- Dr. Robert H. Schuller"Will give help as well as comfort to those who read it." -- -- Madeleine L'Engle, author of Certain Women --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title. Lewis B. Smedes (1921-2002) was a renowned author, ethicist, and theologian. He was a professor of theology and ethics at Fuller Theological Seminary in Pasadena, California, for twenty-five years. He is the award-winning author of fifteen books, including Forgive and Forget. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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  • Smedes(Author)
  • Pocket (July 1, 1988)
  • English
  • 9
  • Self-Help

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  • By Guest on December 30, 2009

    If feel good, pop psychology is what you are after, then this book is for you. If you are looking for sound Biblical guidance on the topic of Forgiveness this book entirely misses the mark.Just because a book mentions God, or has vague references to scripture, does not mean it has sound Biblical theology. The primary focus of this book is I, ME, and YOU. It completely misses a Christians primary reason and motivation for repentance and forgiveness, the substitutionary death of Christ for our sins.I'm not a scholar, and don't typically write book reviews, but if you are looking for a Biblical resource on this topic, this book does not live up to the standards of the Gospel of Christ, nor does it acknowledge the power of the Gospel message.

  • By Deborah Rae Allcott on February 6, 2015

    The book I received smelled like cigarette smoke!Unhappy about it!My apologies! This was not the book that smelled like smoke! It was another book!

  • By Traci S. on January 14, 2010

    Warm and witty, this book and its insights will free you to consider the possibilities and beauty of forgiveness. The author gave me the hope I desperately needed. He made me realize that forgiveness is not something in which we snap our fingers or make a quick, one-time decision and it's a done thing; but rather a process by which we travel through stages to reach the place where your memory is healed and you turn back the flow of pain from the past and are free again.The four stages are: Hurt, Hate, Healing, and Coming Together. Each stage must be worked through and processed for the offended person to become truly free. At first I was a little afraid of the "hate" stage because, as a Christian, I was reluctant to admit I actually did hate the person who hurt me. But now I understand that to hate your enemy is to be completely unable to stop dwelling on the hurt they caused, and unable to wish them well. Ah-hah! That I could totally identify with and furthermore, I discovered that if I wanted the healing of forgiveness, then I must confess that this is the exact place I find myself so that I'll be able to employ the tools that will move me towards the next stage. While forgiving in itself is a simple act, it is done within a mix of complex emotions. To deny them is to sweep them under the rug where no light can reach them. Truthfully, when I started out reading this book I had hoped for a "quick fix," but Lewis Smedes has convinced me that the destination is worth the journey.Within the pages of Forgive and Forget are many stories of real people mixed in, some with experiences so painful that you are completely inspired to follow them in the mystery of forgiving. Many of their stories are written about in chapters dealing with people who are hard to forgive. These chapters are: Forgiving The Invisible People, Forgiving People Who Do Not Care, Forgiving Ourselves, Forgiving Monsters, and Forgiving God. The chapter on Forgiving People Who Do Not Care was especially relevant to me because the woman who deeply wounded me insists she did nothing wrong. Also, if you do not know the story of Nazi concentration camp survivor and Christian author Corrie Ten Boom's crisis of forgiveness, you will be touched to read about it here as well.Then there's Part 3, and perhaps the most affirmimg for me, which is titled, "How People Forgive." I love his words that begin this section - "Forgiving is love's revolution against life's unfairness. When we forgive, we ignore the normal laws that strap us to the natural law of getting even and, by the alchemy of love, we release ourselves from our own painful pasts. We fly over a dues-paying morality in order to create a new future out of the past's unfairness. We free ourselves from the wrong that is locked into our private histories; we unshackle our spirits from malice." This is exactly what I want! Again, by coming at this with the knowledge that we forgive "slowly," sometimes "in confusion," oftentimes "with anger left over," "a little at a time," and "freely, or not at all" helped me feel reassured that I'm on my way.The very last section is an excellent essay on, "Why Forgive?" With convincing words he puts forth his best argument for forgiving versus hating and getting revenge. I won't go into detail here but suffice it to say that if you're thinking that maybe forgiving isn't worth your time and effort, or that another way may be better, you will be challenged within these pages. I hope then you will consider his case. In closing, contemplate these words from page 133, "When you release the wrongdoer from the wrong, you cut a malignant tumor out of your inner life. You set a prisoner free, but you discover that the real prisoner was yourself."

  • By Brian C. on March 4, 2010

    I purchased three books on the subject of forgiveness: "Forgive and forget: healing the hurts we dont deserve", "From anger to forgiveness a practical guide to breaking the negative power of anger and achieving reconciliation", and "Forgiveness: how to make peace with your past and get on with your life".Forgiveness: how to make peace with your past and get on with your life was by far the most helpful. It is the most practical and the most comprehensive of the three books I purchased. The book explains the what (forgiveness is), why (forgive and humans experience stumbling blocks), and also the how (to forgive).I found from anger to forgiveness to be the second best. It had some good practical advice and steps, but did not go into the same level of detail that forgiveness did.Forgive and forget was the least effective of the three books. It had very few practical steps or solutions. The book spoke at length about theory and did not ever arrive at practical conclusions or steps to take. The story in the very beginning was the closest the book ever came to defining the path to forgiveness.

  • By William on May 22, 2017

    Remarkably easy to read and helpful

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